Thursday, December 31, 2009
Thursday, December 24, 2009
Joseph and I paid a visit to the ophthalmologist (eye specialist) on Tuesday. Joe was diagnosed with partial blindness, or visual impairment, due to nerve damage, and probably caused by his MS. Since it is nerve damage it is medically irreversible. This new diagnosis has been a shock and been pretty devastating for the both of us. As of yesterday he is no longer able to work at Toyota. We are seeking out help and resources from Blindness centers and vision rehabilitation services, also unemployment and we already have an appointment for disablilty.
So I will be leaving my morning job (keeping my teaching job if possible) for something more full-time while we work things out for Joe. We have already hit the phone lines hard talking to state foundations for the blind and we will be in touch with a vocational and rehabilitation counselor, from the Department of services for the Blind, soon after Christmas.
Joseph and I have already received priesthood blessings from my grandfather and from the sounds of it he will not be regaining his vision, but things will somehow work out. We were comforted by the blessings but that does not take away the hurt or difficulty of the situation we are now in. We have also been fortunate enough to be able to visit with our wonderful bishop last night and he is on board and ready to help with whatever we need. He has been a great support for us.
The timing is awful but good at the same time, I am on Christmas Vacation from both from my jobs and so I have the time to dedicate to contacting everyone we need to, and accessing the help we know we need.
**Disclaimer*** we are not looking for pity, or unsolicited advice, however we are looking for prayers and words of comfort from our family and friends during this difficult time. Thank you for understanding.
Friday, December 18, 2009
Friday, December 4, 2009
It was a chilly morning and in the slight breeze fog hung thick. As we departed for our journey that day we knew we would arrive our destination with time to spare, we had plenty of time and we had everything we would need. Little did we know the events that would unfold on our way. The trip started out well enough, my handsome companion Joseph and I were alone, and enjoying our time together. Julius (our car) kept us warm, comfortable and entertained us by playing lovely tunes, a soundtrack for our jaunt to Spokane (my birthplace). We were heading to see a magic man, called a neurologist, who looks at brains.
Remember the fog? Fog is a funny fellow, he loves to play tricks on us poor mortals, you know. He would tease, and leave for moments just to return to us full and thick the next. His best trick though is to persuade you to think you are moving slow when in fact if you aren't careful you could accidentally engage warp speed and miss your destination completely, or leave the planet entirely. Luckily, that was not the case with us, however we were traveling much faster than that of the posted speed limit signs. (And in the right direction, we didn't get lost.) I looked down, and discovered my error, but it was too late, curse you fog!
Without my knowledge a police officer had clocked me doing 81 in a 70. He turned on his spinning red, white, and blue lights, signaling me to pull over to the side of the road. I did so. This short, round, kind faced man approached my window and checked my papers (you know insurance, registration, license). He left and went back to his squad car. I was upset, can you blame me, really? The magic man only waits so long and if we were late he may not see us. The officer noticed my distress.... I must stop to explain that there was no crying, wailing or gnashing of teeth present from myself. However the officer was so moved at my demeanor that he called another officer to join us.
"I wanted to talk to you and make sure that you are doing okay, I was informed that you were pretty upset when you were pulled over. Are you doing okay?"
"Yes, I am fine."
"Are things going alright? Are you in a fight or something? Does your husband ever hurt you?"
Shock and bewilderment hit me, full force. And must have read on my face as I responded,
"What? No. Never. My husband is wonderful and wouldn't ever do anything to hurt me.
"Well we just wanted to check and make sure you didn't need help or anything."
"Thank you I appreciate it, I was just upset about being pulled over."
"So, where are you guys headed?"
"We are headed to see a nuerologist in Spokane."
"A nuerologist huh, so why are you seeing a nuerologist in Spokane?"
"My husband has MS and has had a recently had a flare up and he needs to see this nuerologist, who specializes in treating MS"
"Wow, MS that must be upsetting for you"
"And that must be pretty tough to deal with."
"Yes, yes it really is."
"Now that we know what is going on, you are free to wait inside your vehicle." "Thank you, Officer."
Shortly after this conversation, and after rejoining my loving, albeit worried husband in the car, the round officer approached my window. He took pity on us in our situation, and gave me a ticket for going 75+, thus reducing the fine by $50. (And just so you know, I have already paid my ticket,my first real ticket -that wasn't totally bogus! Seeing as how I obviously earned it.) We continued on our way at a much slower pace, as you can imagine. That little stop cost us 30 minutes,and $93. If it weren't for a handy cell phone, we wouldn't have bean able to call the office of the magic man, and let them know we were going to be late.
Following all of this, we did indeed make it to see the neurologist, and had a productive appointment with him. You should know that Spokane is a busy place, with many one way streets, but for a talented driver like myself and no immediate need for crazy turns, donuts or swirly maneuvers, we found our destination, and also a cute Italian restaurant in which to dine and toast our birthday. Then off to DQ where we got caught up eating ice cream, because it is the best treat in the whole world.
(comments please on my awesome story!)
Wednesday, December 2, 2009
P.S. I will share the whole story after some fun guesses!
Friday, November 20, 2009
-link to the person who tagged you, and post the rules on your blog
-complete the 36 "I've come to realize" statements
-choose friends to tag and link them at the bottom of the post
-let each person know they've been tagged by leaving a comment on their blog
1. I've come to realize that my chest-size... is something some people pay a lot of money to have, lol.
2. I've come to realize that my job... (s) help fulfill my need to create music.
3. I've come to realize that when I'm driving... I love driving stick.
4. I've come to realize that I need.... more me time, love Zumba (starting that up again soon hopefully)
5. I've come to realize that I have lost... my want to be tan, being healthy is better.
6. I've come to realize that I hate it when...People swear.
7. I've come to realize that if I'm drunk... then someone must have spiked my drink.
8. I've come to realize that money... does not a happy person make.
9. I've come to realize that certain people... will never learn.
10. I've come to realize that I'll always ...be missing someone.
11. I've come to realize that my sibling(s)... are growing up.
12. I've come to realize that my mom... is one tough cookie.
13. I've come to realize that my cell phone... is getting old, man I need new one.
14. I've come to realize that when I woke up this morning... I didn't want to get up, I just wanted to spend the morning snuggling my hubby instead of going to work.
15. I've come to realize that last night before I went to sleep... I went through the normal routine, tuck in then kick my left foot/leg out, pull a blanket up to my face and cuddle into Joe, get a goodnight kiss or two then sleep.
16. I've come to realize that right now I am thinking... it's hard to think of all the things I've come to realize.
17. I've come to realize that my dad...works really hard, and knows how to play hard too.
18. I've come to realize that when I get on Facebook... I check out everyone's pages, but I don't write on my friends walls as much as I should.
19. I've come to realize that today... for giggling.
20. I've come to realize that tonight... is the last night I teach before Thanksgiving break.
21. I've come to realize that tomorrow... I will sleep in, and then have a productive day.
22. I've come to realize that I really want to... be the best person I can possibly be.
23. I've come to realize that the person who is most likely to repost this is... I really don't know.
24. I've come to realize that life... is completely unpredictable.
25. I've come to realize that this weekend... won't be long enough.
26. I've realized the best music to listen to when I am upset... is nothing.
27. I've come to realize that my friends... are very valuable.
28. I've come to realize that this year... has gone by really fast.
29. I've come to realize that my ex... and I were wrong for each other, but we are each happily married now.
30. I've come to realize that maybe I should... clean my room soon.
31. I've come to realize that I love... my little family of Joe and I, plus our kitty.
32. I've come to realize that I don't understand... why bad things happen to good people.
33. I've come to realize my past... has everything to do with who I am today.
34. I've come to realize that parties...are fun, and family parties and the best.
35. I've come to realize that I'm totally terrified... of never becoming a mother.
36. I've come to realize that my life... is hard, and somewhat amazing.
I tag, well anyone who feels like doing this.
There is another article about her HERE love it!
Here's a snippet:
" ...my husband Ian Gomez and I adopted a little girl.
...not because an adopted child seems to be the latest Hollywood must-have accessory. But because, after ten years of banging my head against the brick wall of infertility, I accepted there was another plan for me. And (cue music swell) motherhood turned out to be the most meaningful thing I've ever done with my life. Really.
It wasn't easy to adopt an American child. Actually it's quite simple, but finding out how to do it was the hard part.
I tried many routes that fell through or didn't work out. Then I waited on many lists. The phone didn't ring.
Later, I was put in touch with a lawyer who works with, how shall I put this daintily... known people in my industry, and was informed I could be put at the top of The List and "have an infant within three days." But didn't that mean I would be moving someone down the list? Someone who had waited? Yeah, wrong.
I didn't know what to do. So, I kept asking questions.
A common misconception is that to get a kid you just have to go to another country and be as pretty as Angelina Jolie. As studio executives and movie reviewers have informed me again and again -- I'm not.
So I asked -- don't we have orphanages in the States? I found out no, we don't. But we do have 500,000 kids in foster care. 129,000 are legally free for adoption and waiting for a family. I was stunned.
I realized there was simply no reason to not adopt an "older child." Why not? 129,000 legally free children with no home? In a white hot moment, I knew this was what I had been waiting for.
And now I want to write that it was really easy. But, no. No, it wasn't."
I am loving Adoption month and hoping to be a better advocate for Adoption
Sunday, November 15, 2009
So, I got to stay with these people:
you can check out her post on it HERE, I love how she describes how she knows me, and yes it's true we stayed up 'til 2 am chatting, it was fun! :)
And meet this cutie for the first time:
Then after the conference I stayed with these people:
Although I wasn't planning on it I went to sacrament meeting with them (Brooke and Macey had there Primary program- they broke it up into jr and sr there are a ton of kids in their ward!) So I packed my stuff and went (in pants- I told them later they can say I was an investigator, or the truth I was traveling and I had no skirt) I managed to find my way back to their house so I could follow the google map instructions to get home (beleive me it was a little complicated) but the drive went smoothly and I made it home it time to take a small nap then get dressed for church and go to choir and meet with our Bishop... and I have a new calling!
I am the second counselor in the Primary Presidency.
Until next time
Thursday, November 12, 2009
And here's a picture I stole from my childhood and now life long friend (off her FB) Deana and her husband Jacob, who just returned from Iraq on the 6th.
Thursday, October 29, 2009
When it feels like it should be Friday and it's only Monday?
What through us so off is lack of sleep and anxiety over Joe's Appointments on Tuesday. They went so well! 1st was his Physical Therapy Appointment, we did it there in Spokane because they have a Multiple Sclerosis specializing Therapist there. And if she was to decide he needs weekly visits or something we would follow up locally. But she diagnosed Joe as a Spaz (his words not mine). Joe has Spasticity in his legs, it is what is making it hard for him to walk lately, especially after this last flare up. Basically it means that the muscles in his legs are tight and cause spasms and it can make the muscles feel stiff. Joe is in the middle in the scale they rate him, so not so good but not so bad either. (for more info go here) He has been given a list (with pictures) of stretches he needs to do at least twice a day, and he should try riding a bike too to loosen up those muscles (and Dad has already set him up a bike on the trainer and he is ready to go, after he did that they talked about really getting Joe ready for a cycling event or something?! boys!?)
Next was lunch of course, got to feed my boy... then the MRI. I love how close everything is, the MS Clinic it technically an extension of Holy Family Hospital in Spokane, and Inland Imaging is in the hospital itself. I really enjoyed the guy that helped Joe get ready for the MRI, he was young and has a great attitude for the kind of work he does (he had just met Dr Cooke that day!) After he was set we left him with a phone and walked around (otherwise I'd be going nuts waiting, it takes a while you know). Joe said the MRI went well (as well as you can expect being put into a tube of magnets that buzzes and bangs- you should hear his impression of it..lol)
Joe will be in to see Dr. Cooke again on Nov 30th (not soon enough, but soon enough, he's hard to get into) At that appointment we should be making the decisions on medications and getting then started ASAP!! And we will be so on top of that. He has waited long enough, but we do understand that the MRI had to come first and that because the previous Neurologist didn't give Dr Cooke the requested info (Grr..) Joe was re-diagnosed with MS, which sounds weird but it's good, they agree and Dr Cooke didn't need to see what another Dr had to say he did his own tests and came to *almost* the same conclusion.
What astounds me is how often we have heard Dr Cooke and staff ask why, why hasn't this been brought up before? Why didn't you know he had Spasticity? Why haven't you seen a physical therapist before for MS? Why didn't they MRI your spine? We would like to know that as well, but we are still grateful for the care and treatment that he received with his last Doctor, he saved my husbands life. Before he was my husband, and now Dr. Cooke is saving his quality of life and giving us the resources to do everything that Joe needs.
I love my husband Joseph, he is more than worth all the hassle it is to take care of MS. He is my miracle and my example he is so strong and brave and I will stand next to him through whatever else life has to through at us.
more to come it has been a seriously weird week. :)
Sunday, October 25, 2009
I reserved my spot for the FSA conference and I am so so so excited to go. When I realized that it was located so close I felt a real need to go. I am so happy that I was able to make this happen. I wish that Joe could come with me but my schedule is much easier to finagle (nice word huh?) I am going to print out some business cards with my contact info and hope to make some more amazing adoption contacts. I will attend a variety of classes on a plethora of different adoption topics and take copious amounts of notes to share with Joe and you blog readers of course.Did I tell you I am excited?!
Thanks to all who offered me a place to stay. I am overwhelmed and grateful. I hope that Joe and I can plan a fun trip so we can see you all, I forgot how many people we know in Oregon. Lunch sometime somewhere in or near Portland anyone? (probably after the new year, we have holidays coming up so soon! Can you believe it?)
Thanks so much! :)
Saturday, October 24, 2009
Friday, October 23, 2009
Having a husband with MS is hard. MS is an expensive disease.
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
Funny story, my ticket was thrown out.
I came prepared with my statement, a signed statement from my witness,
and a receipt for the mirror we replaced
Before I had my chance before the judge...
Judge Holly Hollenbeck= awesome!
J: Mecham, Shaylee (he said Me- cham)
S: approached the bench and said my name correctly into the microphone.
J: sorry, well you know if you have a 50/50 chance of saying a name right 90% of the time I will say it wrong.... So Ms. Mecham will you be passing a convience store on your way home?
S: Possibly, yes.?!
J: Well do me a favor will you?
J: pick up a lotto ticket, it's your lucky day. The officer failed to write up a report. I rule this as not commitmented and you are free to go.
S: Picked up my jaw off the ground "thank you"
I did go to Yokes and bought a dollar scratch ticket (1st time in my life) I did win a dollar, I didn't cash it in, because I don't gamble. But I was ordered by a judge in a court of law to buy one..lol.
In other news...
His MRI is paid for, thank you MSAA.
And after mucho paperwork and mucho phone calls
he has both appointments scheduled for a week from today!!
And we should make it back into town,
in time for Pizza and Ice cream with the Primary.
Going Private!: We have decided that we will go private afterall. At the end of the year, so everyone has a chance to get me their emails to be added as a reader. So leave a comment with your email or email me @ email@example.com
Monday, October 19, 2009
a few possibly.
But tomorrow I am going to court
to defend myself and avoid paying a ticket
for something I didn't do.
p.s. If you read my blog give me a shout out, I am thinking of going private (due to the private nature of things I put on here) and it is important to me that no one is left out.
p.p.s. You, ALL of you CAN leave comments, use the anonymous option and sign your name if you aren't a blogger.
Thursday, September 17, 2009
Hey everyone. A friend of mine is having a biggest loser contest. Not a lot of people have signed on. I know a lot of us want to change something and that something being weight. So let's do it together. Cassidy has set this up and I want to help bring in more participants. Come on it'll be fun. She is even offering prizes!!
and all the info is there.
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
Monday, September 14, 2009
Joseph and Speckles cuddling... yea, he won't admit it most of the time but he likes our kitty.
And this one is just funny, she is yawning, not trying to kill Joe. lol
For couples considering adoption, there is a lot to think about! If you and your spouse are wondering if adoption is right for you, ask yourself the following questions, we did:
Do you and your spouse have similar feelings about adoption?
Are you and your spouse excited about the prospect of becoming parents through adoption?
Are you realistic about the joys, heartaches, struggles, and rewards that can accompany parenthood?
Are you ready to let go of the idea of having children through pregnancy?
Do you understand that adoption will not cure the pain of infertility?
Do you and your spouse have a solid, healthy relationship?
Are you ready to be a parent to a child who doesn’t have biological ties to you?
Can you provide a loving atmosphere in which a child may thrive?
Are you prepared to deal with a child’s questions and possible feelings of loss?
Are you prepared for the rigors of the adoption process?
Are you prepared for the possibility that adoption can result in conflicting, complicated emotions?
If you answered yes to all of the above questions, then chances are good that adoption is the right path for you!*
There are a lot of options when it comes to adoption (domestic or international, foster-to-adopt, agency adoption or private attorney adoption, trans-racial adoption, infant adoption, adoption of older children, etc.); these questions were just meant as a stepping stone to help you to decide whether or not to begin your adoption journey!
[*The above questions are from this page on ItsAboutLove.org]
Saturday, September 12, 2009
- I started work. Two jobs in fact. I am a paid accompanist at my Alma Mater. By definition "performer paid to play", I'm a professional. Woah. Ya, that is cool. I love it & I love working with Mr. H or Coach (lol) I starting teaching Piano Lessons at the Tri- City Acamedy of Ballet and Music. I only have 4 students, my boss tells me to be patient he'll fill my schedule, but I am happy to start out small.
- I broke my tooth. My #3 molar (I learned that at the dentist, it's one of the main chewing molars) I was walking in Costco, and a huge chunk came out. Luckily my family's dentist excepted me as an emergency patient. I almost lost it in the office when he told me I needed a crown and that my tooth is basically falling apart (due to a failing filling- not rotten though, phew) I have a temporary now, permanent coming in a couple weeks.
- The same day my tooth broke I got my 1st ticket. Yup, true story. I figured that I was pulled over for a missing mirror (another story another time, but it's gone and he can't ticket me for it) so he decided to ticket me for running a red light. It was green!! The ticket was for $124. NOT cool. I had a passenger though, and she is willing to be a witness when I go to court and contest it. Because $124 is a lot of money to pay for something I honestly didn't do!
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
We LOVE Joseph's new neurologist... Monday was his first visit to his new doc. Here's how the day went:
*Woke up early, left a little late, took Mom with us (to make sure we could find the place- she knows Spokane better) Put the pedal to the metal walked up to the check in desk exactly when they asked us to be there-couldn't have timed it better. lol. We had barely finished the health history when he was called back. The nurse was nice, she took his vitals and also got the info to contact Dr. Vincent- his old neurologist (she needed this because even though we formally requested his medical records over one month before his appointment, we haven't recieved it!! Grr.)
*Anyway Dr Cooke came back really quickly. He got a really detailed history, and he took tons of notes. He spent the next hour or so testing everything (Joseph's reflexes, nerves, balance, vision, hearing, strength resistance and others I couldn't figure out) He was very hands on, and a little old school, he had to see it, test it and write it down. Although he was a little old school testing he is extremely knowledgeable and "in the know" when it comes to medications and treatments for MS. He talked to us about different types of treatment, what he reccommends and he entertained questions about things we have researched.
* He reccommends that Joseph start on Rebif, and get an MRI of his brain and spine (He hasn't ever had a spine MRI) Dr. Cooke also wants Joe to see their Physical therapist once (then we can follow up with more if needed locally)
* Overall I don't think that Dr. Cooke and his staff could be any better or earned any more brownie points- they are spectacular!!
** MRI Follow up** MRI's are REALLY expensive so I did some calling around and MSAA has a program to help MS patients pay for MRI's, it looks like we qualify to have his MRI's paid for completely. So we are currently working on getting all that paperwork done.
** Medication** Rebif is a medication administered 3 times weekly by shot. We've read through the packet, watched the DVD, and everything else, we think it's a good way to go. We feel good about it. And since he can't go on it until after his MRI's there is still time. Good News: Rebif has a program to help patients pay for it, at most we'll pay $50/month, or nothing
***To sum up*** Dr. Cooke & Staff = Amazing!! It's worth the $50 gas (1 tank for the 260-ish mile roundtrip, then the tank filled up again in town), $20 food & $25 co-pay for 2 hours with Dr. Cooke. When compared to what we used to do, pay the same for a 30 min. drive and 15 minutes with his old neurologist. Can you say Score??
Thursday, August 20, 2009
About Joseph & MS
Q: How is Joe doing?
A: Really great, considering his MS. He is a walking miracle! He works hard to make sure his MS doesn't effect him and his goals.
Q: Is Joseph currently on medication?
A: No. He was on cellcept,basically a mild form of chemo, it was pretty rough on his body. His neurologist in Idaho had us wean him off cellcept because it could cause a scary disease with no symptoms and often fatal. It took over 4 months to make the decision to wean him off & 6 months to wean him off.
Q: Does the lack of Medication cause flare ups?
A: No, not necessarily. Flare ups are the normal course of MS. Medication can help lower the severity and can sometimes reduce the number of flare ups but we do not feel like his most recent flare up was caused by lack of medication. He has been stable with no flare ups for over 4 years until this year.
Q: What are your plans for Joseph regarding medication and treatment?
A: He has an appointment on Monday with Dr. Roger Cooke an MS Specialist, in Spokane. We will see what he recommends. We have looked into LDN, Chiropractic care and others. But we will be seeing what his new neurologist has to saw regarding a course of action for Joseph's care.
Q: How is the adoption going?
A: It's on pause, we've done all we need to do except pay the $500, we had it but it's gone because of down payment on our new car and paying for Joseph's treatment for his flare up. We are pausing the process because Joseph's health is more important than babies. We have every hope of getting it going again and having the $$ quickly but our money is going towards Joseph.
Any more Qs, leave a comment we are happy to answer!
Tuesday, August 18, 2009
* I got a job yesterday at The Tri- Cities Academy of Ballet and Music. Teaching Piano.
*Joseph and I were called to teach in Primary again, this time the Valiant 9's, this should be an experience we've never been in senior primary.
* This is my last week of teaching swimming lessons. Summer is almost over and School is creeping back in.
Monday, August 17, 2009
Friday, August 7, 2009
* I fight for my family. I will fight for them always. Someday I WILL be a mother, I don't know when or what else I will need to do before that happens but I want to be ready and be the best Mommy in the world, because Joseph is going to be an amazing Daddy. To become a family we have endured miscarriages, surgeries and Adoption paperwork, bring it on...
* I fight for my husband's health. Joseph has MS, he has been stable for almost 5 years, until recently, he had a flare up (which he is almost through). I have exhausted myself fight insurance, office personal, referral delays, internet research etc etc. Now I am happy to report that Joseph has an appointment with a highly recommended MS specializing Nuerologist (mouthful huh?) in Spokane (a couple hours away) on August 31st- soonest appointment. His flare up has slowed our adoption savings down, but he is more important to me than adopting babies, seriously.
* I fight my body. Sometimes it doesn't like to listen. I had Insulin Resistance, I won that fight. Now with that gone, I can lose weight easier, I am working on it. I have a goal. I do not weigh myself, but I have a healthy size goal and getting close is so good!
*I fight for Adoption. Adoption is misunderstood, I like educating people. I like learning more. I love that adoption has been built into Heavenly Father's plan for us.
**wrist update** I am doing much better, thanks all, its just annoying when it hurts when I mow the lawn or seomthing. My Mom had a brace so I wear that when it hurts.
** Adoption update** it wasn't hard to turn down our last opportunity, really honestly. Met with our new caseworker (ours got transfered out of adoption into social work only), great great guy, we have to get $500 and he comes to the house and we're done! (We had the $$ but trading our car and Joe's flare up drained that, hey, life happens)
The r house blog is doing a giveaway, awesome right? Well I never win. I wish I did... I enter giveaways all the time so to get another entry I need to blog about it. The prize is a signed copy of this sweet children's book all about adoption. (pictured above)
here's a little sneak peak
"I had been LOOKING for you for so long.
I spent so many days ANTICIPATING your arrival.
Some days SEEMED SO LONG without you."
as individuals who have struggled with infertility, sterility, childlessness and the waiting involved with adoption, haven't we all felt this?
See why I HAVE to win?
Sunday, August 2, 2009
Numero Uno: I have come up with a solution to tail gaiters. While riding in the back of my Father's Army Jeep. (it's orange, and all open) Keep in mind it was over 100 degrees outside and we were moving in an open jeep. I thought it would be funny to have an ice cream cone. Yes, it was funny, and really messy. Aparently, tale gaiters don't like it when thick white cream hits their windsheild! It was melting faster than I could eat it and we were moving so fast it splattered in all directions, my dad even ended up wearing some too. I was laughing so hard, I bet you would too if you saw us.
Numero Dos: I sprained my wrist. Well this fact isn't funny on it's own. It's how I did it. I sprained my wrist during family pictures... we were taking a picture with us girls holding my brother Dustin up. I took the heavy end and somehow turned my wrist wrong and almost dropped him. Thus injuring my poor wrist. Funny still.
Monday, July 27, 2009
"Our fees reflect the demographics of adoption. You will find we are certainly not alone in this struggle. We do not have a large number of African American families lined up to adopt. We do have a fairly large number of Bi-racial and African American placement opportunities If our fees were the same we would have many African American little angels pasted up as families wait for their Caucasian child. So we have lowered our fees to encourage families to consider them as part of their adoption plan. ( it just is a fact)"
We do not agree with this and will not adopt through an agency that thinks this way.
Wednesday, July 22, 2009
*Our cousin Luke is in the hospital, please send prayers his way too!
*Joe is doing much better, he is frustrated with his vision, it's better but not best... His turn around with the steroid treatment was pretty phenomenal to see. He is walking really well, and doing good all around with little to no side effects from the steroids, just sore from the infusions. He is on a wean down dose of steroids for the next 10 days. He has a follow up appointment with the eye doctor and we're still working on the Neurologist we want to see. I may just have to get really pushy!
*Suzy is gone. We traded her in while she was running and still worth something. We are now the proud owners of a 2005 Kia Rio his name is Julius. He is orange, a pretty red-orange.
*We both have talks on Sunday. No assigned topic, trying to think about what I need to speak on...but life is keeping me pretty darn busy.
*Thanks again for all the comments and visits to the blog, I will try to update more. :)
Saturday, July 18, 2009
*Suzy is running again, but we are looking to trade her in for a more economical vehicle (and saving ourselves some $). Poor Suzy had gas syphoned out, man we were ticked.... at least it was only about half a tank.. anyway now we have a locking gas cap.
* Joe, well he has had a little trouble with his eyes and balance lately so we had taken him in to have his eyes checked and found out he has optic neuritis in both eyes (or swollen optic nerves, a symptom of MS) so we had to look into Neurologists here, something we were already doing. Turns out there are lots of Neurologists here, not many that specialize in MS and not many with good reviews (Rate your MD online and other patient feedback) So we made an appointment with a family doctor (at an office my family has been going to for years). Before the appointment we knew the kind of treatment Joe was going to need, he needs steriods. Joseph had an appointment with a doctor that is new to the office, Dr. Burrup. I couldn't go to the appointment so I sent my mom armed with all the paperwork filled in and a list of Questions I wanted answers to. Turns out Dr Burrup is totally awesome, and LDS. He got us hooked up with a handicap placard, I worry about how far away we have had to park sometimes with the heat here. He couldn't prescribe the dosage he would need so we had to try to get him into a neurologist, but you can't just get appointments right when you want or need them. So to get things going (and since Joe isn't allowed to go to work for a couple days or until he could get treatment) and you know Joe, he does not sit still. So we went to the ER, they have on call neurologists and we wanted to get treatment started right away. Our plan worked and we spent 4 hours at the hospital yesterday . Joseph is on a three day steriod infusion treatment, he has an IV in his hand we will be going today and tomorrow. Then a follow up appointment with Dr. Burrup on Monday and more steriods but in pill form. Our doctor is trying to get us in sooner with a MS specializing neurologist in Spokane that we found, at an MS clinic. We want to look into LDN treatment, more info to come on that later. Joe says he is feeling better, and he looks pretty good, I think with his time off he may sun a little by the pool.
* After the hospital we got food, we were starving. We stuffed ourselves updated family and left to go babysit my cousins. You can tell Joe is a softy, he got his nails painted, many colors, many layers and some even with sparkles. Those 3 girls were giggling so much. It was pretty funny.
Well that's it for now. I hope to be better about updating, but we've been pretty busy.
Thursday, June 25, 2009
*2 new front axles $112,
* 2 bottles gear oil $8,
*2 seals $29,
*Borrowed 2nd jack from neighbor
* "Broke-in" and borrowed creeper from grandparents
*lots of almost swear words as they were really (understatement) really difficult to remove.
*Help from: Me, Dad, Dustin (brother), JR (new brother), Tom (neighbor) & Dave (super nice co-worker)... axles finally out.
*Deliriously Delicious and ginormous homemade (by me) Cinnamon roll sent to Dave.
*Need to fix rear differential.
*Need different socket... bought a set, $54
*More help from Dad and I. Out much easier and faster.
*2 new bearings, a new seal, a couple other things I don't know the name of and a new crush sleeve $90, will probably need a couple more bottles of gear oil $8
Soon our sweet Suzy should be all put back together, Thank goodness, seriously for awesome employee discounts for parts, a super nice co-worker who came and helped out (he is also our parts guy)OI love my amazing husband that happens to be a mechanic, who is doing all the work so we don't have to pay someone else- I don't think they would accept monopoly money do you?
Now for your viewing pleasure some pics I took:
Yes, she's mine...
yes, I am allergic to cats...
it was love at first sight, her name is Speckles. She's adorable and hilarious. She is going to be an inside outside cat to combat my allergies, that is, as soon as Tonka decides she's one of the family- not dinner. Cookie, my dog loves her, follows her around trying to lick her they play pretty well together..
notice Cookie's tongue is out in both pictures... cute! .. don't know how long our relationship will be but for now it's someone to love..
Friday, June 19, 2009
Tuesday, June 9, 2009
Saturday, June 6, 2009
It's a relief to know the truth after all those conflicting nutritional studies.
1. The Japanese eat very little fat
and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.
2. The Mexicans eat a lot of fat
and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.
3. The Chinese drink very little red wine
and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.
4. The Italians drink a lot of red wine
and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.
5. The Germans drink a lot of beers and eat lots of sausages and fats and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.
Eat and drink what you like.
Speaking English is apparently what kills you
Friday, June 5, 2009
* I am thankful for my amazing husband! Who wakes me up in the morning on his way out to tell me I am beautiful, Say I love you and give me kisses before he goes... like this morning ;)
*I am SO incredibly thankful for Joseph's employment. He is starting his career and he LOVES it!
* I am thankful for the two men, Baldy and Coach who are fighting to hire me.
* I am thankful for the weather and that Joseph is adjusting to it very quickly...it gets really hot (I love it, but I was worried about how he was doing when it was 104 last week)
* I am thankful for a sweet couple who have agreed to let me use their swimming pool to teach lessons this summer. Oh, and clean it too!
*I am thankful for Zyrtec.. it allows me to be helpful with outdoor chores & projects that I couldn't do before.
* I am thankful for a wonderful meeting with our caseworker. We were nervous and things went so great!
*Thankful for wonderful family in both Idaho and Washington, and lots of other places too.
Well I know there are a lot more I could list but I have already put up a few posts today... so that's good for today... now off to do some creative budgeting to see how we can come up with our adoption transfer fee and the cash to fix our car too (albeit slowly, but as soon as we know what we need it should go much faster!!)
In other news: My brother is graduating high school tomorrow. My cousin Dexter graduated today. My little sister Alisha is expecting :) and hopefully things go through so they can buy the little house they are trying to. I got a new brother. A pregnant cousin of mine is getting married tomorrow. My great-aunt and uncle both passed away last week (within two days of eachother) it's really sweet actually and I am happy they aren't sick and hurting anymore.
So I will cut to the chase...
What we need to do:
yes, we will have to pay the $500 transfer fee, not cool, but oh well. We are old college students we know how to pinch pennies 'til our fingers hurt.
Background check - child abuse neglect specific. You have to have background checks in all the states you have lived in, Jason is checking to see how extensive ours were. So worst case scenario we will both have to fill out a little paperwork and wait for it go through. Good news no fee.
Employment verification form. We counted on this one. Just a form to bring to Joseph's Human Resources lady to fill out and send in.
Update our Financial statement. Good news, this is online.. easy peasy!
We may have to do more "adoption training" as to meet Washington State law... checking on that one... see if our adoption classes qualify.
So overall not too bad...the $$ not good... you'll see why in the next post.
*helping my mom with seminary graduation, she's basically in charge. So I hauled things around, spell checked as we printed out the diplomas,and put together the program and the list goes on...
* helping with Gma becomes full time some days. She was in the hospital almost three days when I last blogged about it. She is doing okay. She is done with treatment wahoo! But she has been really sick after.. weirdness. We expected that she would get sick during treatment not after. Anyway she had another trip to the ER this week and turns out things were okay.
* Fill in babysitter I have really gotten to know my little cousins, they are so funny. I have gone to their house so my uncle for work and get all the girls off to school. Joe was there too and he did the breakfast part ("take 3 bites then you can put your bowl away, hey!,that bite didn't count do you want to make it 5?") and I did hair.
* Ballet Mom Fill in: I have taken Abrie to ballet a couple of times now and I took the girls for their pictures which included lots of hairspray, gel, bobby pins, hairnets and time to make thee perfect ballet bun- very serious stuff here. I was also in charge of doing makeup- yes, it went quite smoothly for a 7 & 5 year old. They loved it! We did have some drama about the tights and how they should fit *ahem* where certain parts go... story for another post. so so funny.
* Lots of babysitting 5 year old girls. These cousins get along so well and entertain eachother, so it makes it easy to watch them. Abrie is hilarious on her own, but get her and Naomi together awesome. N doesn't talk to everyone... I experienced this for the first 10 or so minutes together... until we decided to have hot dogs together... now we're good.. I'm fun , or so she says.
Well thats all I can think of... things are getting slower which is okay, but I am looking for more to do. It's funny when you are so busy that you can't remember if you ate.
Friday, May 29, 2009
Sunday, May 24, 2009
She probably won't like that I put this pic up, ... she was telling us not to take pics, but she is looks just fine.
Friday, May 22, 2009
If school budget allows I will have two, count 'um two jobs at Kennewick High. What you ask? A marching band tech and an accompanist. Yea my plan worked,they can't live without me. They (band director we'll call him "Baldy"- don't worry he likes it, and Choir director let's call him "Coach" - he does coach football) are working to make sure I will come back next semester and get paid!! yay!
Joe is doing good at work too. He enjoys his job. He is acclimating to the Kennewick heat very well. He does get wobbly but that's it! That is the only MS symptom he deals with right now. And I am working on getting him in to see the Chiropractor/Natural Path/ Nutritionalist I saw here. We feel so good about it, I hope for results just as good.
So cross your fingers for both of us! :)
My Mother's Day flower
More Mother's Day flowers- from Mom
Val's Mother's Day flower.
Mom's "pot" garden used to be an arrangement of empty pots, now not so empty. I am so glad to have flowers!! :)
Thursday, May 21, 2009
Another trooper is my aunt Mishawn, she (with her family ) live with Grandma to take care of her. Mishawn is uber- organized, she would say OCD, but it works for her and for us, she has made sure to get Grandma where she needs to be for all her appointments and treatments and she manages to do this while being a wife and a mother to three active girls. We (Mom, Val, Alisha and I) have been "on call" anytime she needs anything, whenever something needs to be done or help with the girls, anything. It's been great to be able to help out, I was feeling a bit useless in Idaho (for them) but this has kept me pretty busy and given me the oppertunity to get to know my aunt and cousins better, since I really hadn't had the chance before.
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
Friday, May 15, 2009
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
It would be a beautiful thing.
Saturday, May 9, 2009
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
tap them on the shoulder and then pretend it wasn't
2) Push the buttons and pretend they give you a shock.
Smile, and go back for more.
3) Ask if you can push the button for other people,
but push the wrong ones.
4) Call the Psychic Hotline from your cell phone and
ask if they know what floor your on.
5) Hold the doors open and say your waiting for a
friend. After a while, let the doors close, and say,
"Hi Greg. How's your day been?"
6) Drop a pen and wait until someone goes to pick it
up, then scream, "That's mine!"
7) Bring a camera and take pictures of everyone in the
8) Move your desk into the elevator and whenever
anyone gets on, ask if they have an appointment.
9) La y down the twister mat and ask people if they would
like to play.
10) Leave a box in the corner, and when someone gets
on, ask them if they can hear ticking.
11) Pretend you are a flight attendant and review
emergency procedures and exits with the passengers.
12) Ask, "Did you feel that?"
13) Stand really close to someone, sniffing them
14) When the doors close, announce to the others,
"It's okay, don't panic, they open again!"
15) Swat at flies that don't exist.
16) walk around the elevator and ever once in a wile, poke a wall, and
say got ya
17) Call out, "Group Hug!"and then enforce it.
18) Grimace painfully while smacking your forehead and
muttering, "Shut up, all of you, just shut up!"
19) Crack open your briefcase or purse, and while
peering inside, ask, "Got enough air in there?"
20) Stand silently and motionless in the
corner, facing the wall, without getting off.
21) Stare at another passenger for a while, then
announce in horror, "Your one of THEM!" and back away
22) Wear a puppet on your hand and use it to talk to
the other passengers.
23) Listen to the elevator walls with your
24) Make explosion noises when anyone presses a
25) Stare, grinning at another passenger for a while,
then announce, "I have new socks on".
26) Draw a little square on the floor with chalk and
announce to the other passengers, "This is MY personal
Monday, May 4, 2009
We are doing well in Kennewick. Joseph has a job, no not with Lithia who we thought we were moving here for but with Toyota of Tri-Cities. Joe loves Toyotas, and so far loves his job. He was really nervous the first day but is adjusting well. I am the accompanist for a choir at Kennewick High, hopefully proving that they can't live with out me and will pay me to come back next school year...it's working so far I think. The choir teacher Mr Henderson doesn't like using students as accompanists.
Our transition to become legal Washingtonians was a heck of a roller coaster ride with lots of loops, and hoops and high speed the whole time... we had to register "Suzy" our car her tabs expired this month and that was a fun adventure and when we finally got someone at the bank in Rexburg to fax over the title, we showed up at the DOL and their computers had just crashed! Getting us licensed was fun too, they really gave us the run around. We have one of those DMV's that you see in the movies, you know the kind where you can spend hours just in line, waste a day... yup we wasted a couple days. Joe had to have my mom sign an affidavit proving that Joe is in fact a resident of the Swanger household, my residency was less difficult since I was in the Washington system before. We have a BIG problem here with illegal aliens, both of the Latin and the Russian kind, so proving residency and multiple forms of identification is muy importante. Luckily we had everything we needed, except my mom. She was with us the last and successful visit! So we are now Suzy, Shaylee, and Joseph, all Washington residents.
There are only about a million things going on medically in the family.
Grandma Swanger is fighting cancer and is now in her third week of treatment and starting to feel the side effects. So I have become the "pinch hitter" babysitter for Mishawn my aunt who is taking care of Grandma. That alone can keep one pretty busy there are a lot of appointments and long appointments. So Abrie and I are pals.
My little Sister Val has injured her hand, and has dealt with it for while and it had flared up again. We now have a diagnosis, a hairline tear in a tendon between her thumb and fore finger. One that PA to a hand surgeon has never seen injured before. 2 MRI's and a year or so after the initial injury she is getting her hand treated. After seeing the Physical therapist they decided that surgery isn't a good option but possibly splinting it and weekly physical therapy.
My cousin's family contains two people that had been diagnosed with a disease that causes blindness. And a missionary from our ward that was in Africa came home two months early with illness, turns out it was Mono. And of course the Swine flu scare. FYI WalMart was out of hand sanitizer. There are 2 cases locally but are not confirmed swine flu. But because of my exposure to teenagers with questionable hygiene habits I use hand sanitizer.
So those are the important updates... I will update later. I have had a lot of thoughts recently that are blog worthy. But after all the craziness of the last almost 3 weeks and our 3rd wedding anniversary tomorrow it'll be a couple of days. Sorry to those I haven't emailed back, I will email you.